A Sea of Stars

Um. I didn't quite get this book. Writing prose was pretty good, the characters were decent, the pacing was hell, and the story really lost me. Despite speed reading the last 140 pages at 2 am, I got that we needed to not bind the dead, but I had so many questions left over from throughout the book. This may have partially been due to the speed-reading at 2 am shush

*DISCLAIMER*: If any of these questions were answered in the book and I missed it, I take full responsibility for being a potato. Please don't hate on the potato.

Some of my questions that come to mind:

If binding the dead is such a bad thing, why were we doing it in the first place?
And if we were binding because we didn't want the dead to come back and hurt us, than what exactly are we accomplishing by not binding the dead because it's also bad?
Why exactly did the binders (Spider, Willow, and Otter) go insane?
Why did Willow bind as well as crazily unbind, sometimes without even trying to?
Why does yarn, of all things, have power?
Why, if this is a so-called all-women community, are these some guys?
Why do some guys choose to stay (or why are they allowed to) and others choose to go?
Why do only women have power?
WHY DID CRICKET HAVE TO DIE??!